...but you know the rest.
As if you guys needed any more evidence that our youth need guidance, here's the latest in Nigga Nonsense, straight from the Lone Star State.
Marche Taylor thought all her school friends will turn their heads to see her wearing the dress she prepared for the high school prom party, but instead she had to turn herself in after things got too tense and Houston police had to intervene.And I don't have to tell you which option this virtuous young lady chose.
Taylor’s skimpy dress showed a lot of skin and the chaperon didn't like that at all. She just refused to let the girl into the dance because the dress she was wearing was inadequate.
Things got tense and escalated at such a degree that school officials had to call the cops. A police officer showed up and escorted the teen girl out of the building, but not before handcuffing her.
Ms Taylor got very angry because the school officials just didn’t give her an option. According to her sayings, school officials told her to go home or go to jail.
Seriously, and I know this phrase is getting old, but "where the hell are the parents?"
No, I don't blame young Marche one bit. She's an impressionable young lady who craves attention. She wanted to wear a Freakum' Dress to the prom, and lacking any parental guidance, she took a few swatches of fabric right over to Aunt Nay-Nay's and got that bad boy sewn up. I'm glad the school principal knew better than to allow this sorta Magic City getup in the Senior Prom. And yeah, I'm still wondering where Marche's parents were when this news channel came to interview her, and somehow persuaded her to put the dress back on and parade in front of the nation.
[Editor's Note: Anyone else think it's a bit odd that CNN keeps picking up these sorts of stories? Last week it was Latarian, the preschool car thief. Today's it's Marche. Who knows what's next. Is this some sorta covert operation to derail the Obama campaign? And is it just me, or is Campbell Brown the ditziest, most untalented "journalist" evar?!?! I'm just sayin'.]
This is why I try my darndest, between the jokes and poorly-worded regional humor to convince you guys to Take The AverageBro Challenge and pour just a few of your hours into the lives of impressionable youth like Latarian, Soulja Girl, and oh yes, Marche Taylor. Some of our parents clearly aren't getting the job done, and blaming Bob Johnson, Debra Lee, and Soulja Boy isn't gonna change a damn thing.
Get off the bench, check in the game, and do your part.
A whole generation of preschoolers in Freakum' Dresses are waiting for you to come save them.
Houston Teen Handcuffed For Skimpy Prom Dress [AP]
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My husband would clearly say that "Marche doesn't have a daddy at home." I agree with that statement.
I saw this on the news and couldn't understand it. Who gave you the money for that piece of fabric? And why did you think it was OK? But you can't tell some people anything.
I want the parents brought up on child neglect charges.
i think it's a cycle...marche made this dress and there was no sensible adult in her household to tell her it was wrong...so then, what is wrong with her parent(s)? maybe they grew up in a household where things like this were no big deal and therefore, when they had kids of their own, they simply continued the cycle of stupdity, tom foolery, and shenanigans. it's really sad when you look at it from a big picture, generational perspective. these kids are supposed to be the leaders of tomorrow, and we see now that they couldn't even dress appropriately if they walked into a board room or office.
@ AB, i have slacked off in the past fews years on my version of the AB Challenge. I think I need to work on that ASAP!
Where are her parents? Where are her friends? And then some grown behind animal will want to prey and we're going to focus on him.
And I'm fine with giving him his punishment but when you're concentrating on him that means his damage has already been done.
And why do we expect an animal to do anything other than what they do? That's their nature, they can't be changed.
Its like me dropping my son off in the woods and expecting the wolves to raise him. No, its more likely they'll attack-because thats their natural instinct.
Same with these two-legged wolves. When we don't raise kids, when we don't educate them (academically and morally)we're sending them to the wolves.
And with that dress, Marche was sent into the woods with a raw steak around her neck.
I'm from Texas and work in a school that's predominately black like Madison. I am not surprised by her way of thinking. I am constantly trying to help my kids "unlearn" some of their twisted ways of thinking. Believe me, some of these kids got it honest. I'll check back on your blog soon.
Blessings...
I have to agree with Maryee, I think Marche thought she was looking good, and got prom dress mixed with something else. Who ever the adults are that are around her should have told her something was wrong with the way she looked, then again they may have thought she looked great also. To Me --- young ladies are not acting like ladies, and they do not want any advice from anybody. Oh well, Im sure she's glad to see that she has made national news and did get to show how she looked in her dress.
Maybe it's not too late to help that young girl. I hope she does get it, because she's on the freeway to $40 customers, hard pavement and clear heels.
However, there comes a certain age when even "tween"-agers set their minds on being adults before their time.
EG
This is the number one reason there is a dress code for prom(and graduation) at my alma mater. At the time we thought they were buggin, with all the restrictions but I look at this and it all becomes clear.
I can not claim to know where this young lady got the idea for her "ensemble" but it just exemplifies the amount of trouble we as a culture are really in.
I have a phrase that I use when I see someone walking around looking a hot mess: "Somebody ought to slap your Momma for letting you come out of the house looking like that;" I think this situation fits.
I wish my daughter would think she was going somewhere looking like a 50 cent Hay Street Tranny Hooker. Matter of fact, I'm a grown woman but I know my own mother would knock the fire out of me for thinking I was going somewhere in any thing similar to that "dress." And when I woke up in the hospital 3 days later she would help me see the error in my judgement.
My bathing suit shows less skin, and between my tradional Southern Mother and my old school Southern Grandmothers there is no way that outfit would make it off the drawing board. I'm gonna need US to do better. Someone needs to tell this child that there's a big difference between trashy and sexy because she appears to have the two confused.
miss gypsyeyes are you from fayetteville, NC? I thought she looked like a hayes street hooker as well. It goes back to no daddies in the house. My mom was a little fashion forward, but my dad was always the voice of reason. He would always ask sensible questions like where is the rest of the outfit. If something was too short for his taste but not risque, he would comment on the outfit, and I understood that I probably shouldn't keep it in the rotation. Daddy's word and opinion was law. Not to say that my mom didn't have good judgement, it was just that dad's voice was the last say, and I had to abide by it. Unfortunately this young lady has gone a little too long without a firm hand.
To many people made the wrong 'choice' when they decided to bring another child into this world to parents who are unwilling or unable to parent.
Okay ABers. I was listening to the local staition when Marche's mom called in. Mom explicitly stated that the dress she saw and approved of is NOT the dress that was worn to the prom. Also, apparently Ms. Marche is currently not living at home with mom (don't know about a dad) because according to mom 'she has rules at her house and if you can't follow the rules, you can't live at her house'. She seemed to be very hurt about her daughter and concerned about her future but noted that you can raise your children the correct way but 'sometimes they decide to take their own path'. I'm not totally defending the mom but it sounds like Marche got some hard headedness going on.
Marche also called into the station and sound quite angry and belligerent. When asked had she talked to her mom, the response was an angry and defiant 'no'.
Definitely there is a problem between parent and child but I did wwant to inject that little point of clarification.
Mom also stated she has other children whom she is also trying to raise and is trying to provide a positive influence in her home.
Hello,
I think we are missing the bigger picture. Why are police wasting tax payers money to put a clearly confused young woman in Jail. I am sure there are more serious crimes they can be working on.
Be Safe be Loved
Ron
I agree with the first comment that there's no MAN in this young woman's home.
A man - whether his is the father, stepfather, uncle, family friend, etc. - wouldn't stand by and watch his princess to leave the house like that.
The type who don't say anything are very likely trying to "hit it" themselves when Mama ain't home.
End of discussion.
Well...sometimes the parents encourage this stuff. I mean, I'm always reminded of my 17 year old cousin in the early 90's who's boyfriend at the time was given condoms by her father for after prom!!!!
This is nothing new.
My prom was in 2002 and granted we saw nothing that outrageous, we still had a garter belt ceremony. I'm not sure if it was just a Chicago thing or not, but I remember when I showed my prom book to my mother and my aunt, both of them almost went through the roof at the girls and their dresses.
My date was a new student that year who had just moved from Amarillo, Texas annnnnnd, she wasn't playing all that...(suks for me!!!)
Anywho, this thang just wanted the attention, and attention she got. Again, I wonder what was the point of CNN covering this, just to further display the hootchification of our young black girls because of the hootchified natured of their hootchy mamas and grandmamas and aunties? The more I think about it, the more I get angry.
Now I raise this question to somewhat drive home the point that Symphony commented on:
We have not problem sending our daughters out there, and then get mad when R. Kelly types wanna make a film with them. And then that adds a whole new set of problems by normalizing the sexually deviant behavior of the older man, and make it the girls fault, but yet and still, females dress like this knowing that there are sexually deviant FOOLS runing amok.
My, my, my what to do.
JLL
This may sound a bit harsh, and maybe I'm biased because of a personal situation but I'm so OVER people claiming that they cannot do anything with their teenagers. Apparently these people don't realize that you can't wait until the child is a preteen or tween to start expecting them to do what you say and try to enforce rules. It begins when they are small, basically possessing enough intellect to know the difference between yes and no. You miss the boat if you let them do whatever the hell they want to until they hit the double digits and then just expect them to behave and do as you say, it's unrealistic. Psychology teaches us that issues don't just appear over night for the most part, that there is a progression of misbehavior. I'm just not buying that this girl was all sugar and spice and over night she became Satan's Spawn.
It took forever but I finally found this video. Of course it will not allow me to post it here so here's a link back to my blog that has the video embedded.
http://rainbowburns.blogspot.com/2008/05/we-need-to-do-better.html
or to skip my prattle and just watch the video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqSFdC6dugk
Hey Mad Hatter, thanks for the comment back. I actually checked out the link to Adele Givens' poetry about the situation Miss GypsyEyes posted and forgot I wrote a piece (gotta find my video of it) about such a girl. It's called Free.
I will tell you that there unfortunately are parents who will help select the fabric and find "Aunt Ne Ne" the seamstress to put outfits like that together. Mind you, some person threw those outfits together and unfortunately that person possibly was a woman as well. **she sighs**
The dress was just outrageously inappropriate. I hope after the media coverage dies down, ms. Marche will take a long, hard look at herself and realize she looked like some zany combination of a street walker and a clown.
On the other hand, if she did "design" the dress, she has a promising future with House of Dereon. That dress looks just like something Beyonce would wear on stage. Perhaps that's part of the problem.
When I first saw this story, I immediately thought of the Prince song, Sexuality:
"Don't let your children watch television until they know how to read
Or else all they'll know how to do is cuss, fight and breed
No child is bad from the beginning... they only imitate their atmosphere."
That about sums it up for me.
Why do I get the feeling that this isn't the first bad decision she's made? We always talk about the impact of fatherless households on boys, but this is an all too common example of its impact on girls. Unfortunately she'll probably be pregnant in two years by the first thug that tells her he loves her and continue this sad cycle...
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